You may have heard that sometimes you say "no" to others, yes to yourself, your emotional needs, desires, dreams and even security. But it's wise to know that and take action is a completely different matter. When you want to please the disease, you are afraid to disappoint others, you are afraid that others will become despicable or selfish, and it may be daunting to stand up for your personal boundaries. 
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7. Consider the opposite scenario, assuming you don't want to go to a party because it's the only free time of the week you really need extra sleep. Now imagine you re-presiding over the party. When you invite a friend to attend, you find that she is stressed and tired and attends only for you. You may thank her for her efforts, but you also care about your friend's happiness. Psychologist Ellen Hendriksen said that the thought of saying "no" makes you feel guilty, often because you hurt the other person and they will retaliate. & "Perhaps your petitioner will be temporarily disappointed, but understand, and then go elsewhere for help," she wrote in Quick and Dirty Tips. 8. A stronger invitation to "no" and a stronger "yes"
are true. Every time you say "no" to a person or an opportunity, you inevitably say "yes" to others. No one can do all the work in two places at the same time.
Just as TV producer Shonda Rhimes wrote in Yes: How to Dance It Out, Stand in the Sun and Be Your Own Person, happiness comes from living as you want. As your inner voice tells you. Happiness comes from being who you really are, not who you think you should be. & A 2010 Korean study linked a feeling of powerlessness to depression, which may occur when you feel obligated to say yes to most of the things people ask for. Therefore, in the face of every difficulty, please remind yourself that your happiness is worth it.
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